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Quote of the Day.

Posted: Sun Nov 21, 2010 9:38 am
by bnd
"So many times the parents dictate the attitude of the child. if you want a crybaby, expect everything all the time no matter the achievement child then go ahead and whine and cry and boycott the track. If you want a kid with a "reality" focus in life then tell them "hey, they aren't giving out trophies for 4th place, you will have to get into the top 3 next race sweetheart, just try your hardest and don't give up". In fact, i see it better to keep going back to that track until the award is achieved. Of all outside influences, its the parents who will influence the most. Those children are watching how you handle the situation.

I see this all the time. I have seen kids get wrecked (not intentionally, just because its bmx) and the parents crying "they took my child out". Then the kid goes around crying that she/he got taken out and they develop that mentality. Not good, and it leads to poor sportsmanship and excuse making.

The rules are the rules, if the t.o. didn't reward the girl (for 4th place) then I see no big deal with it if it was according to the rules. Its not the sports fault for lack of growth, its the american curse on our parents that feel our respective kids are owed everything in the world despite the hard work and effort that leads to accomplishment. See, we think that its our responsibility to give our kids everything, to make sure that life is always in their favor even if it means bending the rules. This is no good for our kids. Make them earn everything so when they go out into the world they won't have to call you everything 5 minutes when adversity comes their way. They will know to attack the problem and situation and deal with it on their own. This breeds confidence."




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Re: Quote of the Day.

Posted: Sun Nov 21, 2010 5:51 pm
by mahaffeybilly
I agree 100%.